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Why Stay Married?

Why Stay Married?
Dr. Alyson Nerenberg, Psy.D., CSAT-S will help you with the challenging task of working on your marriage.Why do the challenging task of working on your marriage? It may be easier to just “cut and run”, by starting fresh with a “clean slate” and a new partner. That way you do not have to engage in Couples Therapy where you have to rehash pain, disappointments and failed expectations. There was an old movie called Shall we Dance (2004) that starred both Richard Gere and Susan Sarrandon. Although the movie was kind of silly it had one of the best quotes about why to stay married that I have ever heard.  In the movie, Richard Gere’s character had a secret that his wife did not know about. He was taking a dance class.  Susan Sarrandon’s character knew that he[...] Read More

Unmasking the Illusion of Perfection in Our Relationships

Unmasking the Illusion of Perfection in Our Relationships
Dr. Alyson Nerenberg, Psy.D., CSAT-S offers couples therapy to help you deal with your relationship.Written by: Dr. Alyson Nerenberg In our society, little girls are raised watching Disney movies. In most of these stories they observe that a beautiful princess will overcome obstacles in order to find her own ideal true love.  They believe that once they find that perfect Prince Charming they will ride off in to the sunset and have the happy ending that they deserve. As these girls get older the same fantasy of a perfect partner is promoted by romantic comedies. All the protagonist has to do is work through her own misunderstandings and erroneous beliefs and she will find the ideal partner who will provide her wi[...] Read More

When Your Marriage is Crashing Down

When Your Marriage is Crashing Down
Dr. Alyson Nerenberg,Psy.D., CSAT-S can help when your marriage is crashing down. Written by: Dr. Alyson Nerenberg Okay, so there was an explosion in your marriage and you are wondering if you should stay. Whether it was a marital affair, the uncovering of an addiction, a financial betrayal or an act of dishonesty, you are feeling lost and wondering if you should stay.  Before I give you any advice or suggestions just breathe.  Breathe in. Breathe out. It is all going to be okay. First off, you do not have to make any decisions right now. What you do need to do is take care of yourself. Be loving, gentle and kind with yourself as you take some responsibilities off your plate. Whether that means asking a fr[...] Read More

Navigating Life’s Wrong Turns

Navigating Life’s Wrong Turns
Dr. Alyson Nerenberg,Psy.D., CSAT-S can help you deal with life's wrong turns. Written by: Dr. Alyson Nerenberg One of my life struggles has always been that I am “directionally challenged”.  In the past, I used to get overwhelmed by maps and needed to write out my directions in words so that it would all make sense to me and I wouldn’t end up lost.  Fortunately, one of the greatest inventions of all time has been created: navigation systems for cars and phones. Instead of having to pull over and depend on the “kindness of strangers” to provide me with directions, I can just follow my Waze app.  This is an amazing life hack that many millennials take for granted. In therapy sessions, I often sha[...] Read More

Grieving Blog

Grieving Blog
Dr. Alyson Nerenberg,Psy.D., CSAT-S helps with ways to deal with grieving.Written by: Dr. Alyson Nerenberg Last December I had a texting communication with a “friend” who had recently lost her father.  She was communicating to me through texts about how painful her grieving process was.  I had commiserated with her and said that “I so got it”’ and that I hoped the year 2018 would be better for both of us. She quickly attacked me and said “you didn’t lose your parent so how could you possibly understand grief?” I then received a barrage of texts about how much deeper her pain was than anything I could possibly understand. There was a lot that was wrong with this communication.  The first and most important point, was that it was done through texts and not through verbal communication where tones of voice and contexts could be understood.  The second poi[...] Read More

Eating Disorder Treatment and Recovery

Eating Disorder Treatment and Recovery
Jessica Feldman, M.S.S., LCSW of Alyson Nerenberg Psychology Associates, talks about eating disorders, treatment and recoveryBy: Jessica Feldman, M.S.S., LCSW As a therapist, treating an eating disorder is complex, multi- faceted, and non- linear. It requires the ability to collaborate with a strong team of both professionals specialized in treating eating disorders as well as the loved ones who are integral to the individual’s recovery. It is this experience and more for an individual who is contemplating seeking treatment or beginning treatment. An individual in the early stages of recovery may be confused by where to start and whether now is the right time for them to commit themselves to treatment. It is common for individuals to delay seeking help due to distorted comparisons and questioning whether one is “sick enough.” An individual who is initially s[...] Read More

Bravery

Bravery
Dr. Alyson Nerenberg: BraveryBy: Alyson Nerenberg I wear a chain with a gold coin on it around my neck.  The circular coin says Brave, on it.  I wear it to remind myself that I am a warrior.  I have been brave many times before in my life and I can be strong again in the future, even if I feel afraid. I remind myself that I was brave when I went to a rigorous graduate school program for my doctorate even though academics did not come easily to me. I was also brave when I decided to have my third child at almost 40 years old.  Hell, I was a warrior with that one! I did not want to live my life with any regrets of what “I should have done”, so I bravely went forward.  I was brave when my son had learning differences and I had to advocate for his education. I remind myself that I was brave when I taught my daughters to stand up against injustice, even when it made them feel lonely.  I was [...] Read More

Parenting Blog Post

Parenting Blog Post
Dr. Alyson Nerenberg: Parenting Blog PostBy Dr. Alyson Nerenberg As a psychologist and mother of three children of different ages,  I am frequently asked about parenting. Like any parent, I have moments of brilliance when everything I say comes out sounding perfectly, and other moments where my less than higher self emerges and my kids end up rolling their eyes at me. What I have learned about parenting these past 18+ years, is that we all could use a bit of support every now and then. It is in that vein that I would like to share an excerpt from a letter that I wrote to my oldest daughter as she was leaving for college. She is my first child to move away and I wanted to give her some last minute advice/words of wisdom. Please feel free to borrow whatever you would like, modify them or better yet create your own list.
  1. Wear color. I know that almost every woman that you meet will be wear[...] Read More

Hypnotherapy: An effective treatment shrouded in mystery

Hypnotherapy: An effective treatment shrouded in mystery
Katie Dixon, M.S.Ed. Discusses HypnotherapyBy Katie Dixon, M.S. Ed. After receiving training in hypnotherapy, I quickly realized that much of my work using this technique would be dispelling myths about what hypnotherapy is not. When I tell people that I am trained as a hypnotherapist, I am met with curiosity, incredulousness, and even trepidation. “Is it mind control?” people ask. “I do not want to be on all fours barking like a dog or clucking like a chicken every time I hear the sound of wind chimes”, they are quick to add. Still others respond as if the key to unlocking a great mystery has been handed to them. There is a willingness to try anything that will free them of unhealthy habits and phobias. Each of these responses has led me down a path of providing countless explanations about what hypnotherapy is and is not. I am not convinced, however, that my attempts to define hypnotherapy[...] Read More

The Anthem for Anxiety

Kristina Ferrari: The Anthem for Anxietyby Kristina Ferrari, M. S.Ed. Recently I stumbled upon the anthem for anxiety, or what I would imagine anxiety would sound like if it had its own soundtrack.  There was a rapidly increasing beat, a deafening pulsing sound felt throughout the body, a less than kind voice barking orders and formulating its own reality.  This tune even came complete with a countdown to what could best be described as impending doom.  Now, it's safe to say that this same song could be experienced by others in a far different way, even motivating perhaps.  But that was not my experience.  My experience, rather my reality at the time, was all negative. It happened quite randomly and without any intention on my end.  I was in the middle of my daily workout when a song from that week's playlist began.  It's important to note that this particular exercise regimen change[...] Read More